And acted to have a human face. To caring for people, love, respect, understanding. People get along, "gunpowder" should be reduced to increase the human touch. Benjamin Franklin said: "the success of the first element is to understand how to improve interpersonal relationships. A person walking in the community, in order to achieve the invincible, must first know how to handle interpersonal relationships, how can they handle interpersonal relationships?
1, to shape the public image of the "good karma"
"Popularity", in fact, personal relationships. A person's interpersonal situation, that is, whether a "popular" a direct impact on work, study, life is smooth or not is also related to work can successfully achieve their goals. So, how can we have a good "popularity"?
1，there must be the guest, the amount. Relationships, and sometimes conflict, grudge, estrangement, the complex cut and chaotic, why the Department it? One approach is to he "Yuanjialuzhai" Xiaodujichang, brooding; another fourth, to be honest to others. Honesty is the first virtue of the people. Man to be honest, but also to have some chivalrous Rouchang, honorable, magnanimous and open-minded people like a spring breeze, so as to have a good karma.
Fifth, in order to popularity, but also close to "good karma". When you choose your friends, the establishment of networks of relationships, it is best to select people of good karma. And relationship with this person, the closer the better. Why? First of all, this sense of "overplus," we know everything, and secondly, he will give you many benefits: First, the popularity good of his friends are certainly many, if you become his close friend, then his friends will naturally be your friend. For you to quickly establish or expand the network of relationships has a significant role. Second, the "popular" friends many good mass base, the greater the energy, sometimes you will feel, to find such a person to help do a thing, than to find other people is much easier, much more rapidly.
2, Society and the different personalities to deal with.
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(1) to get along with different personalities colleagues points:
Person's life, not to how many people are dealing with modern society, all kinds of information exchange and transmission has increased, people's social activities are also frequently due to work, study, daily needs, and every one of us can not be avoid contacts with various people in different occupations, different ideas, naturally, these people have a variety of different personalities. So, how do we get along with different personalities? We should see that, since people are different with their own personality, in the attitude naturally in many places with their own, like when we see others with their differences, do not think this is not pleasing to the eye, it also could not understand. not to hate and despise others. We have to recognize the difference between When We recognize this, see the different personalities, they will not force others to everywhere and, like, may be tolerated on the inter-character difference.
1, learn to seek common ground while reserving differences on minor ones.
Character of different people, often have different ways of tackling problems, we must learn to found similarities among the different. For example, if you are a character level's comments to Mike, may the words is less intense, more tactful tone. If your side has a strong character and stubborn colleague, Li comments, he may be straight to the point, sharp language, and may even turn to criticize you, saying that the comments you give people beat around the bush, is the blunt instrument of child flesh. At this time, if you only see candid colleagues conducted a critical attitude and the way you do not think he is too reckless, too tough talk, you'll probably feel at odds with him, do not come together, if you in addition to seeing you two comments are not the same, but also to see and you also out of a kind, truly want to help colleagues, so you might not think he is rude and ruthless, and think he has a rare warmhearted, while I do not mind his criticism. We see more common ground between others and themselves, it is easy to get along with different personalities of people.
2, pay attention to the full understanding of others
People in the mutual exchanges, may have such experience: If you do not know of a person, and his emotionally bound to the distance. The formation of a character, often the era of his life, family environment, her education and experience, encounter. When we examine the character of a person, it is best to also understand the reasons for the formation of his character. In this way, you might understand him, sympathize with him, help him, slowly, you will enhance mutual understanding and perhaps even become good friends.
3, pay attention to discover the advantages of others, learn from each other.
Two different personalities together, due to the significant contrast, the two sides may soon discovered each other's strengths and weaknesses. Found other people's weaknesses, the correct attitude is to point it out to others to help him. Thing in the world is not perfect, everyone in terms of ideology, personality, love to have shortcomings, we can not demand perfection. The same time, we should pay attention to find other people's strengths and advantages. In this way, we can not only live in harmony with each other will be a benefit.
4, the mind should be wide, the volume should be larger.
5, pay attention to pay attention to a different approach.
This is not referring to those who see people saying that people, hell that nonsense of sleek sophistication, nor are those cynical flirtation. I said do not treat people, means to see the different people of the character has his own characteristics, we have to take these characteristics vary from person to person the proper attitude.
Adopt a different strategy, different personalities
1，rigid person, to arouse his interest
This type of person, even if you greeted him politely, greeting, he will not make you the desired response. He does not normally pay attention to what you're talking about, even if you doubt that he listen to no. To interact with such people, beginning more or less will be feeling uneasy.
Encounter such a person, you would take some effort, careful observation and attention to his every move, from his words and deeds to find out something that he really cares about. You might casually chatting with him, enabling him to produce some response, then things will be easier. Next, you want to make good use of the subject, let him fully express their own opinions.
Everyone interested in him, a matter of concern, as long as you are the slightest touch, he would talk all the time out, This is human nature, so you must to take advantage and use this person's character and psychological.
2, insolent, as far as possible less
Some people get very high, arrogant, often show a "conceited" look. This behavior rude, arrogant people, it is indeed looked angry, is the most unpopular typical. However, when you have contact with him, you need to how to deal with him To deal with this type of talk should be concise because the best little wordy with his so-called "more than just words".
3, a silent man, straight
Representations does not love opening things is very difficult, because the other side too silent, you have no way of knowing his thoughts, no way of knowing that you have a crush.
For this person, you'd better take a straightforward way and let him know that "yes" or "no", "OK" or "no"; avoid circuitous conversation.
4, who would otherwise remain hidden, the use of mind
Around us a lot of people would otherwise remain hidden, they would not easily make people understand his thoughts, and sometimes even speak far-fetched, when it comes to the question of "outright".
When you encounter such a secret and you only have prepared good data to show him and let him make a final determination according to the information you provided.
Most people do not want to expose their weaknesses, even if you ask him to tell me the answer or proposed judgment, he is also pretending to understand or words less than justice to evasive, so you have a "mystical" feeling, in fact, This is just the other side camouflage their own means nothing.
5, the hasty decision of the people, at every step
This type of person, at first glance seem to respond rapidly, he often carried to a climax in the representations, made a sudden decision, giving the feeling of "lightning". This is mostly due to temper hasty, sometimes in order to show his "decisive" decision would seem casual and hasty.
"Response" too fast, such a person will often things have a misconception or misunderstanding, characterized by: do not have the patience to listening to the conversations of others, often out of context, self-righteous underground decision, so make representations to conduct faster, but the rash make a decision, most sequelae minor hire unexpected occurred.
Engaged in negotiations, if such a person, the best topic is divided into several segments, finished a period, immediately after asking his advice, the same problem and then continue to proceed, so they are not an error occurs, it can also avoid unnecessary trouble
6, excessively stupid people try to avoid
Such people, one at the beginning of Meinong Dong you mean, you're with him for a long time to negotiate down is all in vain.
Often mistakes one of two things: one is never self-examination I do not know; the other one is the poor ability to understand, completely did not understand the conversation of others. For such people, or less contact with him for the wonderful, the other to find a way out.
7, stubborn people, enough is enough
Stubborn people is difficult to deal with, because whatever you say, he would listen, only know how to insist, die-hard in the end. Diehards to grips with this, is the most tiring and because a waste of time, the result is often futile. Therefore, when you negotiate with him, do pay attention to "Enough is enough, otherwise, we talk about the more the longer the heart more happy.
To deal with this person, you do not prevent timely grasp the logic of earlier scattered, early to get out the idea of casual perfunctory him a few words, without time-consuming and knocked.
8, on the slowness of people to come up with patience
Slow action, representations need to be patient.
And the representations of the people, but also often encounter such a person, you must not worry, because his pace is not always keep up with your progress, in other words, he is difficult to achieve scheduled. So, you have the best resistance patience to come up with patience as much as possible with him to do.
In addition it should be noted: some people's words and deeds are not consistent, he may be doing things to a crisp, decisive, but the actions do not conform to nothing.